Is there a formula for loving each other forever? Every couple experiences ups and downs in their daily lives, but some manage to get along perfectly. Do couples that last have their secret?
What do lasting couples say to each other?
These couples to whom everything seems to succeed and who love each other all their life have a permanent communication in the respect of one another. They don’t go a day without talking about how they feel, always trying to find out more about their partner.
This benevolent and mutual dialogue allows them to overcome everyday obstacles while strengthening their relationship. They avoid taboos, secrets or violence towards each other to focus on what drives them forward.
What are the pitfalls to avoid ?
One of the secrets of lasting couples is their ability to handle conflict well. If one of the partners uses a negative and accusatory tone, the conflict cannot be resolved and leads to criticism, sarcasm or contempt.
By avoiding this trap, couples that last offer their partner to modify a specific action rather than criticizing a character trait or personality.
How to communicate well?
To make your couple last, do not hesitate to use non-violent communication techniques to resolve conflicts:
· Observe the behavior that affects your well-being without judgement;
· Express the feelings you have in relation to the situation;
· Recognize the needs and desires that aroused this feeling;
· Propose concrete actions that will contribute to your well-being.
Realizing that your partner is not responsible for the feelings you feel allows you to initiate a constructive dialogue that strengthens the couple in the long term.
Find out more: “The secret of couples that last” by Emmanuelle de Boysson, Renaissance Press edition.
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