Throwing things is a normal stage in a child’s development, but it is important to respond calmly and empathetically.
A child throwing an object can be frustrating for the parent. However, this behavior is often a way of exploring, expressing emotions or seeking to interact. Understanding the reasons behind these actions is essential to adopt an appropriate and caring approach.
Understand the reasons behind throwing objects
For toddlers, throwing objects is often a way of experimenting. Around 1 year of age, the child discovers that certain objects make noise when falling, others bounce or disappear. These gestures contribute to its sensory and motor development.
Around 2 or 3 years old, throwing objects can become a way to attract attention and initiate interaction. At this age, he can also test the limits: he throws a toy to see if the imposed rules will be maintained.
Finally, in children aged 3 to 5, throwing often reflects a need to move, a desire to play or even an interest in gravity.
React calmly and kindly
When a child throws an object, the first step is to stay calm. Explain in simple words why throwing an object is dangerous or inappropriate. “I understand that you are angry, but throwing objects can hurt someone or break something.”
Then propose a constructive alternative. If your child is feeling overly energetic, direct them to an appropriate activity: “Want to throw things? Let’s try throwing this ball outside. » If he expresses an emotion like anger “you can tell me “I’m not happy”, instead of throwing your toys”.
Encourage positive behavior and set limits
When your child follows the rules or demonstrates constructive behavior, remember to praise him or her to reinforce appropriate behaviors. For example, if he chooses to place an object instead of throwing it, you can say, “Good job, you put the car on the table, that’s exactly what you needed to do.”
However, it is also crucial to set clear and consistent boundaries. If an object is thrown repeatedly despite your explanations, remove it temporarily while remaining firm but caring, “I’m going to put this toy away for now, because it seems difficult for you not to throw it. We can use it again later.”
Find out more: “Managing difficult behavior in children: Directions and intervention strategies” by Paul Leurquin and Stéphane Vincelette.
