Knowing how to create positive habits can help you get out of your “comfort” zone.
If it is completely normal to create a routine and habits of life with your spouse, they can also install a form of weariness and boredom. Knowing how to set up positive rituals, which give pleasure, avoids this mechanical daily life and gives way to passion and feelings.
How to identify harmful habits?
Couples who are in the habit generally feel a sense of boredom and sometimes even disgust or sadness vis-à-vis their partner. When nothing is done to give the couple quality time, everyone focuses on their priorities (family life, work, sports, friends, etc.), without really cultivating the relationship.
Very often, both partners are jointly responsible for these harmful habits, either through lack of independence, fear of the unexpected or novelty, or even lack of awareness of the partner’s suffering. The deterioration of the intimate life of the couple, relationships with friends or family, and the loss of feelings must be warning signs revealing a boring and unfulfilling routine.
How to establish positive habits?
Wanting to continue despite everything in harmful habits can only lead sooner or later to pitfalls and regrets to live a hypocritical and non-authentic life. To avoid this, you must first realize and accept that feelings and life as a couple are no longer what they used to be.
Then, ask yourself if the problem comes from your relationship or from other things? Talk about it with your partner openly, giving yourself time together to identify what can be changed in everyday life in order to reprioritize your relationship. If necessary, the help of a couple therapist can be very useful.
Find out more: “Unzip your bad habits” by Jen Sincero, Marabout editions.
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