Why do we think others think like us?

In our daily lives, we often act as if our thoughts and perceptions are universal to simplify our interactions. But this tendency, known as “projection bias,” can also lead to misunderstandings, especially when we misinterpret other people’s intentions.

What is a “biased” perception of others?

The idea that others share our thoughts is based largely on our own subjective experience. We use our emotions and beliefs as a basis for understanding the world and predicting behavior or making connections.

However, this projection is a simplification: it does not take into account the diversity of experiences and perspectives. To illustrate this, think of a movie you liked, you might instinctively think a friend will like it too, when that may not be the case.

The risk of a vicious circle

When we believe someone sees us in a negative light, it often sets off a vicious cycle. For example, if a colleague criticizes your work, you might assume that he or she considers you incompetent.

This thought can fuel distrust or hostile behavior, reinforcing tensions. In a broader context, such as that of relations between groups, this phenomenon can lead to major conflicts, where each party projects negative intentions onto the other, thus justifying reciprocal actions of rejection or hostility.

Encourage communication and support

To break this vicious circle and avoid the pitfalls of projection bias, the key lies in better communication and openness to the diversity of points of view. Rather than assuming others share your thoughts, ask questions, listen actively, and seek to understand their motivations.

It is also crucial to cultivate empathy. Recognizing that each individual has a unique experience helps us move beyond our projections and fosters relationships based on mutual respect.

Find out more: “When do we bias?: How not to be manipulated” by Thomas C. Durand