Your attitude depends on the quality of your relationship, the intensity of your future relationships and, of course, the future of his sexuality. What a responsibility!
– Dramatize the situation, and absolutely avoid that a heavy atmosphere sets in. Swallow your aggressiveness. Your partner does everything possible without trying to shy away from it. Don’t make life difficult for him! Just like you, he too suffers from this disappointment for which he is not responsible.
– Don’t get upset. Even if, one evening, your partner fails to honor you, this is no reason to doubt you and your “sex appeal”. On the contrary, it is necessary to de-dramatize! The more he thinks about it, the more stressed he will be, and the less likely you will have an erection. This small breakdown does not testify to a lack of virility, to put this idea in mind is to run straight to failure on the next attempt, and it is to run the risk of developing long-term performance anxiety .
– Take initiatives. Telling him, “It’s okay, darling” isn’t enough. Pet him, first avoiding the area that is the subject of so many disappointments for him. Go around the obstacle and get closer to the goal in case of shuddering. But do not multiply the assaults, you could develop performance anxiety in him.
– Invite him to give you pleasure. If you reach seventh heaven with his caresses, it’s won! Despite his failure, he will be happy to have satisfied you, and will therefore feel more sure of himself next time. And, who knows, the pleasure of giving you pleasure may allow him to regain an erection.
– Do not adopt a mothering attitude. Be reassuring, of course, but don’t be mothering.
