Do we have to change all the parameters of our life to be happier? Change job, house, place of residence, friends or even romantic partner? If a few small changes and modest adjustments were enough? How to make your way to happiness: What if we changed everything?
Like nutritionistI usually adjust the weight issues, which often go hand in hand with what is popularly called “feeling less comfortable in your own skin”. It is for this and following the crisis that we have just gone through that I wrote this new book What if we changed everything? Let’s see how these tips can help you find happiness.
Changing ingrained habits
During this period of the Covid-19 pandemic (which seems to be ending without wanting to make a prophecy), some have found themselves at home much more often and have discovered the telework without changing careers. Others have rediscovered the pleasure of the market because it was the only time they could go out.
Still others have started food or have begun to take an interest in it. Life as a family or as a couple has taken on much more value. For some because they all found themselves together in their homes, for others because they saw, when they were deprived of it, how much the social link was important.
A lot of couples have discovered that they were not made to be together, others have rediscovered the happiness of having chosen each other. In one sentence, everything was turned upside down.
I ended up understanding that deep down, each of us bases his life and his habits relying on a model that he has not always chosen. We are oriented by society, by a sum of concerns that end up making we forget ourselves ourselves.
Need to change jobs?
Doctor of the nutrition (and I don’t intend to change jobs!), he is also a doctor somewhere of the intellect and the soul. In my office, many people tell me not to feel feel good about themselves and all of a sudden they say they’re going all out changegoing to the countryside, changing jobs… or even changing spouses.
If people say that, it’s simply because they’re not not very happyso to answer that, I set out to find out if there were any solutions to feeling happy without having to turn everything upside down, take medicine, go to the countryside or change partner lover.
We don’t necessarily want to change EVERYTHING. And the expression “What if we changed everything?” » ; is a ready-made expression to jostle the conscience. Changing everything is a very difficult operation to achieve.. If this implies changing absolutely everything in one’s life, it is a risky job with unknown results even if some have sometimes found happiness after having “left everything behind”. »
All you have to do is change the little everyday things to get a result on optimism and happiness. Changing small habits that could be called toxic is not easy but it helps a lot to move forward.
We are victims of so many packagingof so many obligations that we end up becoming small hamsters who roll in their wheel without ever being able to stop us, to breathe, to take advantage of all that there is around each one of us. But what a mistake!
We realize that of micro changes (I told you, no need to change jobs) can considerably improve our lives. But our life being so full of routines installed for many years, even micro-changes involve real work, to go beyond the simple ambition to change.
Regardless of how we experienced this Covid period, each of us felt much more focused on himself and his loved ones (especially in the event of remoteness) than before the epidemic.
We have learned to interact with others in a different way. And even, some of us communicated more with the members of their family and with some of their friends because they had more time to do it and felt the need for it more since, detached from their usual agitation, the affective became a priority to be filled with positive elements.
Walk more, take a step back, cook…
For the most active among us, it was also an opportunity to practicephysical exerciseuse the exit permits to walk around, even to run for an hour, in short to recover form.
Finally, eat better, meditatecommunicating and being in top physical shape had become the means of live better.
I myself learned a lot and changed my outlook on others as well as my appreciation of everyday things that I was not paying attention to and that the covid epidemic, or let’s say its consequences, finally allowed me to watch with more retreat.
I was cooking with my wife (who regularly shows me his love as you can read here) mechanically, today I take pleasure in doing it and I learn to consider it.
When I say that my gaze with others has changed, that means that I don’t let myself no more getting angry in the car for example, I don’t envy someone for something because finally I realized that I was hurting myself.
In fact, if I ever happened to be aggressive, yes, I was hurting myself because I was worrying myself.
“What if we changed everything? »
With this new book “And if we changed everything? » published by First, I am getting closer to happiness. But the happinesswhat definition this represents ? Each of you may have a different definition.
Let’s put aside the famous “change job” but some will say ” to be in peace with oneself and with others”, which a friend confirmed to me during a meal after playing tennis: “You see, happiness is eating this dish of spaghetti after having made a little physical exerciseto be in the sun and chat with you. “.
Finally, my grandson had this very surprising sentence telling me that happiness was the opposite of unhappiness. It is this last idea that made me think and realize that if we wanted to change something, it was not for the pleasure of changing but “simply” to obtain a benefit and feel good.
No need to become a Buddhist monk or to drop everything, target progressive and observable changes on a daily basis, it is already to be on the right path…
This new book What if we changed everything? (Ed. First) is the result of a personal change, of small accumulated personal changes that make me a happy manhappy to be able to share it with you.
Happy reading 😊!
*Jean-Michel Cohen, What if we changed everythingEditions First, 2022, 235 p.
