It’s understood, the best moment to make love, it’s when you feel like it ! But then it gets complicated very quickly: when you want it alone, or both ? And then, is it better to make love in the morning, when the morning erection pleasantly wakes men up? Or during the siesta when a voluptuous torpor seizes the couple? In the afternoon, from five to seven like in the movies? After an argument to reconcile on the pillow? Or when everything is perfectly fine in the best of all possible worlds?
Let’s look at the options one by one.
Morning ? In fact, as you may have noticed, men are usually more frisky when they wake up. Their secret? they secrete more testosterone and more cortisol (the stress hormone) than women, this explains it a little. Hence the vigor of their penis, at attention every morning (or almost). However, the problem with some women (not all!) is their mania for wanting to be presentable.
Without a shower and fresh breath, they feel catastrophic and quite miserable. Seduction capital at floor level! The other women are ok with lounging in bed, but beware, only on Sundays, with the prospect of a lie-in ahead of her! The morning option is therefore not so common for lovemaking.
Of course, it is always dangerous to generalize, to say men are this, women are that, there are always exceptions to the rule. And it’s so much the better if we don’t fit into the frame, love isn’t just hormones or biorhythms, it’s also a question of state of mind and mentality. This oratorical precaution taken, I continue…
At the time of the villainous siesta? Who really fantasizes about erotic acrobatics and great Kama-Sutras after swallowing a sandwich or a bourguignon? Everyone knows that with a full stomach, digestion is at work and that torpor seizes the body, not to plunge them into the abyss of sensuality but into drowsy vapours. Vigilance declines, it is part of everyone’s natural biorhythm (moreover between 1 and 3 p.m., the number of accidents at work and on the road increases!)
On the other hand, the hour of the siesta is miraculous for the reunion of the couple, the complicity between two and the tenderness. Something to stimulate the imagination and then the libido.
And the five to seven?
It must be recognized, at this very Hollywood hour, all the biological cursors are at their maximum or almost. Energy after digestion reaches a peak, fatigue has disappeared, muscle tone is important, serotonin, “the hormone of happiness”, begins to be produced around 6 p.m. with a peak of production around 11 p.m. for nocturnal frolics, if you are not overwhelmed by fatigue before).
Remains a key element, the little happy hour is not given to everyone, you have to have the possibility! For many women, the second day begins with the children, so the trifle, follow my gaze…
I imagine the curmudgeons starting to grumble. In the morning, we’re not in synch, at nap time, we doze off, in the evening, we’re exhausted… so is love never? I answer patience!
After an argument? Why not ! Some couples work on sexuality, it’s their main driving force, it regulates everything.
Other couples use anger to make up on the pillow. No conscious strategy there, it’s just that after the maximum tension comes the desire for calm and relaxation. The tenderness and the bringing together of the bodies, the hormonal secretions of oxytocin cause a state of well-being which comes to put an end to the chaos and the torment which it generates. The tension/reconciliation alternation in bed is sometimes so completely satisfying that it can become an addictive mode of functioning (unconscious of course). With each argument and each reconciliation, it’s like a tide that erases everything on the sand, the couple sets out again on virgin ground until the next time. The explanation did not take place in words but in the language of body. That may be enough…or not. If the cause of the conflict has not been resolved, it can resurface again and again.
When is everything good? Men like to make love anytime (a priori). When they are good and when they are bad. It relaxes them, it perks them up, it distracts them, it stimulates them, it allows them to prove their love… And women? it is more complicated, as we have at the beginning of this blog. They like to put the small dishes in the big ones, they need everything, the atmosphere, the candles, the availability, etc.
At their pace, the real beautiful sexual intercourse would not be legion. The couple would end up making love only very occasionally as there would be optimal conditions to meet. Now, whisper the specialists, sex entails sex. The more we do it, the more we want to do it. They therefore suggest seizing the opportunity without quibbling too much as soon as it presents itself and picking the roses of life.
I told you, love is when you want it! So happy ?
