Conflicts in the couple are inevitable.
In all couples, the question is not whether conflicts will arise, but rather how the couple will manage them. After a honeymoon phase with an idealization of the partner, it is normal to go through a stage of more or less strong conflicts that the couple will have to learn to manage, or not!
Why are conflicts inevitable?
If it is normal to go through a more or less long first stage of idealization of the partner, a more or less marked and rapid decline then follows. The way the couple will survive it will ensure a long relationship, or not!
Come down from your pedestal by realizing that conflict is inevitable and a first step for the couple to come to terms with it and be able to overcome it.
How to argue constructively?
If we assume that all couples will encounter conflicts at one time or another, it is preferable that they be constructive in order to overcome the problems. For this, it is not enough only to complain, but also to propose realistic solutions while limiting oneself to one problem at a time.
Each must therefore be ready to compromise without assuming what the partner thinks. It is also best to avoid sarcasm or put a label on your partner and of course to forget the past in order to move forward.
To take advantage of each conflict, do not forget the benevolence by talking about your feelings to you and by avoiding the escalation in the attacks.
Find out more: “Love each other without arguing: The secret of happy couples” by Karine Danan.
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