Teens engage best in activities that interest them.
Who has never tried to establish a dialogue with their teenager without finding themselves facing a wall? Approaching him with questions or focusing solely on his notes is often not the most effective method. On the other hand, by taking an interest in his centers of interest and by sharing activities with him, you can gradually strengthen the ties.
approach it differently
Establishing a dialogue with your teenager often means starting by talking about yourself! Rather than bombarding him with questions, you can start a conversation about your day, preferably by sharing an activity together. This can be for example the preparation of the meal or the table which places you side by side rather than face to face.
The adolescent will thus feel less scrutinized and more at ease in confiding. So do not talk to him directly about what he did but rather about what he felt, for example by asking him what made him laugh or made him angry.
Take a sincere interest in him
The intergenerational gap that exists between parents and their teenagers often contributes to the prejudices and stereotypes that some may have about others. Establishing a dialogue also means going beyond this by taking a sincere interest in what concerns your child, whether it be video games, music, series or films for example.
Of course the idea is not to devote all your time together to what he only wants to do, but you can regularly organize leisure time around subjects that fascinate him or that you are passionate about in order to share and discover the one to another.
Find out more: “Almost unstoppable recipes for dialogue with your teenager”, by Angélique Motte and Claire Raimbaud, Flammarion editions.
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