Divorce or separation requires a new organization, especially for child custody.
Even if the couple no longer love each other, each still remains a parent to their children. Once the legal formalities are done, reconstruction can be done, as much for adults as for children.
Communicate to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts
Even after separation, it is important to communicate with your ex to maintain parenting unity over the children’s education, health, activities or issues.
Putting aside your differences and keeping in touch allows you to have a constant and benevolent view of the child’s well-being. If oral communication is not possible, a written notebook, filled in by each parent during their period of custody and given to the other, can be an effective solution.
Get organized and set up benchmarks
Whether you are in joint custody or in sole custody, maintaining harmony so that children can grow up with the separation of their parents requires organization and rules: making a shared schedule with the activities, events, and evenings of keep ; not interrogate your child about what happened with the other parent, but let them talk about it without making negative judgments or comments; keep contact with their children, even when they are in care with the other parent, without being too intrusive; find common ground to set up common rules between the two homes on daily life or school homework, for example; not to make your child feel guilty with heart-wrenching “goodbyes” or his sadness when he leaves for the other parent.
A child needs to feel loved by both parents without having to choose sides. Managing the separation of the couple well also means thinking about the well-being of the children while remaining parents.
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