Some male users of the Tinder app say they can profit as they see fit from women who lie about their looks.
One night with no tomorrow for a woman who lied about her physique, it seems obvious to some men. If the person is not as attractive as the photo suggested on the dating site’s app, they claim they have the right to take advantage of it. Feeling betrayed, it seems quite normal to them to have sex with these women to compensate for, as they say, “the breach of trust”.
This is what reveals a study by the British Sociological Association presented at an annual conference in Birmingham. Dr Jenny van Hooff studied Tinder use by men in Manchester and Cheshire. The men describe themselves as “victims” of these women and their alleged lie, and have not hesitated to take advantage of them.
A constant alarming which, according to the doctor, is explained by the superficial nature of meetings on the web, conveyed by applications like Tinder.
A heavy disappointment
Dr. Jenny van Hooff spoke during his lecture some pearls heard during his study. A 29-year-old man she met told her: “I am very often misled by photos that make it appear that girls are thin, athletic or beautiful. When they do not correspond to the idea that I had made of them, I try to benefit from them differently ”.
Then a 38-year-old man said: “I went to meet this girl in a bar, and I saw that she was very fat. If I had been the king of the bar, I would have run away without her seeing me, but I was stuck. ”
Another would have said to him “This is Tinder. I would tell you that your chances of having sex are multiplied if the girls lie about their looks ”. The specialist nevertheless adds that the men questioned admitted to lying often about their physique.
The virtual, this deception
These internet dating apps promote gender equality and openness. But it is all the opposite effect which occurs: they unconsciously resurface sexist behavior, estimates the doctor.
Virtual meetings are more accessible but lead to behaviors contrary to the expected effects. According to her, “the importance of selling yourself on the internet undermines the authenticity of romantic encounters. Easy access to exchanges and virtual seduction intensify the feelings of users. They get carried away, “real” meetings are often idealized and faced with the slightest disappointment, a “beginning of a relationship” can then be cut short without too much explanation.
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