What if we stopped seeing our imperfections to focus on the positive? Practicing self-care is the key to being Good Feel. Our tips.
1. Look at yourself differently in the mirror
Stop the zoom effect on its defects! On the contrary, we learn to look better, and more, at what we like in ourselves: her small or opulent breasts, her skin texture, her slender ankles, her cascading curls, her square shoulders… “I have stopped staring at me like a teenager looking for a blackhead, and learned to look at me like a work of art. And that makes all the difference,” says Ely Killeuseone of the influencers of the bodypositive trend.
2. Walk away from judgments
Whatever our body, the important thing is that we are healthy. Even if it takes time (and requires some training), you have to make the decision to no longer let yourself be affected by disparaging remarks and looks from strangers or sometimes, alas, from relatives. It is difficult, but possible to overcome it. It is above all a question of personal insurance to maintain on its own value, which is far from the only physical criteria…
3. Do good to your body
Accepting yourself does not mean “letting go”, dressing in a tracksuit and a shapeless sweater, and remaining sprawled on the couch. We pamper ourselves with beauty treatments, and we move: not to build muscle or lose weight, but to do good for our body and our mind, because physical activity drives away stress but also helps us to feel alive! Zumba, hiking or African dance, we choose what we want, the only criterion is the pleasure we take in it.
4. Set new goals and find inspiring role models
What do we want in life: to be more beautiful or happier? Is happiness within 3 kilos? The women of the body positive movementtell their (chaotic) journey, their illusions and their difficulties. These are fine examples to follow, undeniably more motivating thana fitgirl with an ultra-flat stomachwhich communicates only in the mode of “appearing” and not in that of “being”.
“Permanently projecting an ideal image or comparing yourself to others prevents you from being in agreement with the reality of your being,” explains psychologist Michèle Freud. We can choose to stop frantically browsing magazines and social networks whose permanent comparison depresses us, and instead seek to elevate the debate (and our ambitions), with more inspiring models.
5. Reconcile (finally) with food
When you love your body and respect it, you don’t make it swallow anything! The idea is to find a stable weight that can be kept without suffering (even if it is 5 kilos above its ideal). This approach also allows find your real hungerand relearn feed for pleasure, not to punish herself, explains Michèle Freud. When you give yourself the right to pleasure, often a moderate amount is enough, especially when the food (chocolate, cake, fries) is tasted with pleasure, taking advantage of its flavors! By sharpening your senses in this way, you learn to recognize your threshold of satisfaction, you heal from your fear of getting fat and from excessive control, to better reconnect with the flavors of life.”
6. Dress as you like
Yes, you can wear tight pants even if you have a belly (unless, suddenly, you force yourself not to breathe), a plunging neckline with opulent breasts, shorts despite good thighs, colorful, sexy… The only rule: to like your clothes and feel good in them. As Ely Killeuse points out: “If I have to pull on my skirt every 100 meters, I zap! For the rest, I dare, and I assume!”
7. Stop torturing yourself with numbers
This is valid for clothing sizes as well as for the scale! The first ones change according to the brands, the cut and the material. It is therefore useless to try at all costs to fit into a 38, a 40 or a 42 (while sometimes you feel pudgy!). As for the balance... it is at the same time useless, guilty and deceitful. We forget it and, instead of climbing on it every morning, we rather choose an item of clothing in which we feel beautiful and which makes us smile.
3 body positive readings
Live better with your body
This sophrologist psychologist has always dissected the problems of weight, and of oneself, to help each woman find her right weight in gentleness and kindness.
“Slimming and reconciling with oneself”, Michèle Freud, Albin Michel editions.
A fun and concrete program
Funny, sparkling and… plump, this ex-bulimic blogger reconciles the most recalcitrant with their bodies. Attitude advice, beauty, clothing and food suitable for the rounds are included and always benevolent.
“Body Positive Attitude”, Ely Killeuse, Marabout editions.
A practical notebook
Practical self-confidence exercises, a sports program, mantras, personal challenges… punctuate this book which helps you feel good in your sneakers.
“My Body positive attitude notebook”, Élodie Sillaro, Solar editions.
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