Having two different parenting styles can be complementary and beneficial for the child.
Being permissive, authoritarian, overprotective or a perfectionist yourself does not mean that the other parent will follow the same course of action. On the contrary, conflicts between parents on education are frequent but sometimes very rewarding.
What is the point of having different approaches in raising children?
Recognizing that the other parent is not on the same parenting line can lead to intractable disagreement, or on the contrary to a flexibility that allows both parent and child to adapt and adapt. be more accommodating. What matters is that parents find a common way to intervene in the rules on a daily basis: meal times, attitude, respect, bedtime ritual…
A child who perceives disagreement between his parents may react by using one parent against the other, for example, to serve his interests. He can also feel guilty and responsible for the conflict and want to fix things at all costs. In any case, this is not a comfortable position for him, which is why it is better to settle disagreements between adults.
How to resolve educational conflicts?
If two parenting styles clash, differences of opinion are common and a source of conflict. To avoid this, it is best to discuss it calmly with the other parent while remaining open to compromise. Realizing that no one has the truth or an ideal upbringing allows you to argue about the positives and negatives of your point of view, while evoking the common goals and values that bring you together.
Above all, avoid showing your differences in front of your child or criticizing the other parent’s approach, but on the contrary, make decisions together, keeping in mind that it is in your child’s interest to do so. take priority.
Find out more: “Caring parents, awakened children” by Laurence DUDEK, First editions.
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