What to do after your retirement?
Survival tips for retirees
You have been looking forward to this big day for years. You say goodbye to colleagues in a festive way. Finally you have time to pick up neglected hobbies. But what if this joy turns to gloom and a big fight with your husband looms? Survival tips for retirees.
For many people, the transition to retirement is without major problems. Others experience bumps in the road. Not so surprising, because you are faced with quite a few new situations. You no longer have responsibilities and you do not necessarily have to get out of bed on time. Every day you have to come up with a new daily routine and suddenly you see your husband, and his quirks, much more. Your partner also has to get used to it, he had a fixed rhythm for the hours that you were at work.
Retired husband syndrome
In Japan, retired men’s wives suffer from rashes, stomachaches and stress. They literally get sick of their husband sitting at home and his meddling in the household. Japanese doctors call it Retired Husband Syndrome. There are even special small rooms with TVs and computers in them, where Japanese women can temporarily store their husbands. To catch your breath.
Completion
Without work you have a lot of time left. You can fill these in many ways. Only doing fun things can get very boring. Another round of cycling or another visit to the hairdresser quickly becomes a routine.
Therefore, set yourself goals. What else do you want to achieve? For example, you have always wanted to play the piano or model. You may like to mean something to someone. You can do voluntary work or fulfill a care task. It is best to start your new activities before you retire, so that you do not suddenly fall into a black hole.
And for those who cannot resist working, there are also employment agencies for seniors. Think carefully about what you are looking for in such a position. Do you want to work at fixed times, are you looking for fun or appreciation? Do you like to use the knowledge that ual has, or do you want to do something new?
Consult with your partner
Suddenly that important person, your partner, plays a much bigger role in your life. The times of being together and alone are divided differently. Just like the household chores. You may be enthusiastic about cooking four times a week, but the other person may think that you are making a mess in the kitchen.
Tensions can run high if you do not discuss wishes and irritations. Express your expectations to each other and try to match them. Listen to the other. Try to empathize. Set boundaries.
Staff
If you still have a problem, or if you are afraid of it, there is always help to be found. There are practical books with useful tips and recognizable stories. Through your employer you can often take a Pensioen in Zicht (PiZ) course towards the end of your career. During such a course, attention is paid to all sides of the pension; how do you stay vital, what are you going to do and how does that affect your home situation. The financial picture is also examined. Another option is to discuss with a psychologist how you can leave your career behind and move on with the rest of your life.
Don’t despair. It is a big adjustment and it is not surprising that you have to get used to it. Take the time to find a new rhythm.