Learning from mistakes helps to avoid repeating the same patterns.
Having a tendency to repeat the same love stories and the same failures can hide a false idea of control by choosing someone familiar. Questioning yourself and better understanding your mistakes allows you to learn to love differently.
Agree to face up to your mistakes
When you want to change your love pattern, often because of repetitive suffering, becoming aware of your mistakes is the inevitable first step. Among the most frequent, the attraction for a narcissistic pervert often echoes a past of violence or a too rapid investment from the start.
Then comes the fear of abandonment often linked to an emotional dependence, or else a hyper-demand that leads to imagining a partner that is too ideal and therefore fictitious.
How to let go of your mistakes?
While becoming aware of the pattern is the first step, choosing its opposite is not always the solution. To change, it is important to open up to other profiles of people, including when the physical attraction is not there at the start.
Agreeing to experiment and multiply encounters with diverse people can help you better know what is good for you, while taking the time to discover what emerges from the relationship. Taking the time to get to know yourself and work on your own expectations avoids rushing into a new habitual pattern whose outcome is already known.
Find out more: “I stop toxic relationships: 21 days to create healthy and harmonious bonds” by Marion Blique, Eyrolles editions.
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