What are the bans for children for?

Prohibitions are often the result of a reflex transmitted automatically from generation to generation. They are useful to protect the child for fear that he will hurt himself for example, but also to help him to respect his environment and have good relations with others.

How to verbalize prohibitions to help your child?

By constantly giving negative instructions to your child, such as “don’t run”, “don’t throw the toys”, or “don’t hit”, it is possible that he reacts negatively with difficult behaviors like tears, crises or cries because he experiences frustrations that he does not know how to express.

To help him, do not hesitate to respect his basic needs, such as the need to move, to explore, to make decisions or to challenge himself, while trying to encourage him to think through instructions. positive. It can be for example “walk slowly”, “respect your toys”, or “speak more kindly”.

In this way, you will help him better understand the limits and avoid misunderstandings that can lead to frustration and rebellion.

How do you know how to set a ban?

Finding the right balance between what is prohibited and what is not is important to help your child question his environment and his behavior. By helping him to better understand his needs, but also yours and those of the people around him, you help him to structure and socialize in an appropriate way.

Do not hesitate, for example, to encourage him to check that there are no other children who could be jostled during his slide, or to offer him cushions to protect him if he falls from the sofa in jumping. Don’t forget that the prohibitions are there to ensure his safety, without curbing his need to explore.

Find out more: “At home, there are rules!” by Laurence Salaün and Gilles Rapaport, Seuil Jeunesse editions.