Here are 3 things to know about “slow sex”, a practice that aims to increase the sensation during sexual intercourse.
- Launched in the United States, the “slow sex” movement has been developing in France for a few years.
- According to “slow sex”, the secret of a sexuality as fulfilling as it is intense is slowness.
We knew “slow food” or “slow life”, which praise a way of life based on respect for slowness, but do you know “slow sex”?
This concept is based on an attractive proposition: to fully enjoy the experience that sex brings by taking the time it takes.
Remember that sex releases hormones of pleasure and happiness and that it strengthens the cardiovascular and immune system and that it would be a shame to deprive yourself of it.
Erotic Communion
In slow sex, orgasm and performance are not the objective: it is the discovery of the other and of oneself that takes precedence, in an erotic communion that gives pride of place to sensations.
The partners are passive and active in a relationship of equality. Far from the quickie (the quickie) and the hyperactive and compulsive sexuality conveyed everywhere, slow sex allows you to experience a different tempo where orgasm is not the primary objective.
No injunction
Thus, there is no injunction to performance, it is an exploration and that is what seduces the followers of slow sex.
Diana Richardson, American sex therapist author of “Slow Sex, making love in conscience” describe :
“We suggest slowing down and being present in every moment of sex instead of making love in such an intensely orgasmic way that we miss the possibility of feeling subtle nuances throughout. long sexual union”
Ritualization
“Slow sex” combines so-called “mindful” sexuality and certain forms of meditation, but also recalls the Tantrism and Taoism, based on slowness in sexual encounter.
The watchword is relaxation: decor, candles, oils… a subdued and soft atmosphere makes this special moment sacred.
“Slow sex is the opposite of rushing and seeking orgasm quickly. This requires time, complicity between the partners, and also a certain ritualization of the situation” explains sex therapist Alain Héril.
