Whoever says single at thirty immediately thinks of Bridget Jones drowning her overflow of frustration and weariness in a tub of ice cream in front of Pretty Woman. This image of the sad and desperate bachelor deserves to be dusted off, shows us a psychologist from the University of Auckland in New Zealand.
In the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, the scientist proves what some single people already think, namely that we can very well to be alone and happy. The quest for love with a capital A is not the priority for all free hearts. Some are very satisfied with being single, confirm the results of its survey of 4,000 New Zealanders aged 18 to 94, a fifth of whom are single.
“Believing that being single makes you less happy than being in a relationship is not true for everyone, rectifies Yuthika Girme, the author of the study. Singles can also be fully satisfied in their single life”. People who do not share their life with someone can very well find their happiness by building their friendly life and carrying out the personal projects that are important to them, believes the psychologist.
“Singleness is not the negative experience that everyone thinks”
In fact, singles who feel better alone than together are those who fear the most conflicts within the couple and disappointments. For these, single life is a much smoother and less thorny path than married life. These people who are afraid of conflicting relationships tend to be more unhappy in a relationship because they expose themselves to more stress, loneliness and disappointment when the relationship does not go as well as they would have liked.
Conversely, Yuthika Girme has identified a typical profile of people more focused on the fulfillment and construction of the couple in the long term. These people are more likely to suffer from single status and are better off as a couple.
The myth of the Catherinette has lived. It’s time to accept that there are self-sufficient singles.
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