He takes the whole duvet
It has become a leitmotiv: in the middle of the night you wake up shivering because the duvet in which you had fallen asleep like a baby ends up at the other end of the bed. The culprit is none other than your partner, twisted like a spring roll in the blanket. You seethe inside and tug as best you can on the duvet.
The strategy to defuse the conflict: you share the bed but sharing the duvet is difficult? The most comfortable solution for you to sleep warm is to each have your own duvet and/or blanket.
He snores and it wakes you up
Is your partner one of the 15 million French people who snore at night? Snoring come from vibrations related to a relaxation of the muscles of the throat and the palate. But this scientific explanation is not enough to console you when you toss and turn in bed, annoyed by these unwanted noises.
The strategy to defuse the conflict:
-you rely on the results of an English study, published in the British Medical Journal, which recommends that snorers practice 20 minutes of singing a day.
-your partner does not like to push the ditty and you opt for earplugs. You can also block snoring by surrounding your head with a wall of pillows that will direct the sound of snoring away from your ears.
-another solution: seek the advice of a doctor because snoring can be a sign ofSleep Apnea.
He watches TV in bed before falling asleep
You need quiet to fall asleep. But this search for auditory tranquility is parasitized by the detonations of the action movie that your companion watches every evening.
The strategy to defuse the conflict: to avoid unplugging the TV (or sending it to sleep on the sofa), invest in a wireless headset that will allow your partner to watch their programs without getting in your way.
He likes to cling to you but you need space
You like hugs but you consider that there is a time for everything. To fall asleep peacefully you cannot stay curled up in his arms. In short, you need your space. Problem, your Jules may have trouble understanding it and experience it as a rejection on your part.
The strategy to defuse the conflict: Communicate! Explain to him that for your well-being you need to sleep on one side of the bed, but that does not call into question your complicity. At bedtime, give yourself time for cuddles and your intimacy as a couple. Warn him that as soon as you feel sleep invading you, it’s a sign that you have to physically separate so that you can join your corner of the bed.
He don’t like complete black, you do
Total darkness is a sine qua non for restorative sleep since black promotes the stimulation of melatonin, the sleep hormone. The problem is that your companion prefers when the shutters are open.
The strategy to defuse the conflict: Close the shutters and the curtains, but place a small night light which will be directed towards your companion without illuminating the room. The other solution, but less comfortable (and a little love-killing), can be wearing a night mask.
He goes to bed very late, and you early
Early riser versus late riser or early riser versus late riser. It is not always easy to harmonize different rhythms. But when a late bedtime results in a systematic awakening of the partner, it can quickly become problematic and rub off on the mood. Hello atmosphere!
The strategy to defuse the conflict: Discuss with your partner and make a “deal” with him: whoever goes to bed after the other or wakes up earlier does so discreetly. No buzzer, no hugs or chatter…
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