By combining positive thinking with an anchoring technique from NLP, you can create your own feel-good button. You can press it to see a boost of confidence and feel good. You will gain the power to control your positive emotions and bring them forth on demand.
The Positive thought is a mental and emotional attitude of focusing on what is going well. It comes down to envisioning a better life and always expecting success and positive results in the future.
What is positive thinking good for?
This state of mind, particularly encouraged in positive psychology, is also a weapon not to be discouraged. When your plans don’t go as planned, positive thinking helps you stay motivated and not resign yourself to failure.
You can set up a anchoring technique which will allow you to experience a feeling of well-being whenever you feel the need. You can then press your wellness button as soon as you need it. You will then reconnect your mind to a positive emotion and you will feel a release of serotonin, the hormone of the joy of living.
How to activate your well-being button?
- Take a few moments to refocus on yourself and relax. Awaken your memory and dig into it to recall your best memory.
- Try to fully relive this moment. How did you feel? What was your behavior? What did you do, see, feel and hear?
- Relive the film of your memory. You are the main actor, so feel free to add details, color and sublimate the sets in your head.
- Note how vibrant you feel, both happy and confident. You will associate this sensation with what is called a anchor gesture : for example, you will make a fist and concentrate only on this feeling of joy that invades you.
As soon as you encounter an annoyance during the day, clench your right fist (or the left fist, it’s up to you) as if you were pressing your feel-good button.
By practicing this little exercise regularly, you will notice a renewed confidence and feel more positive. Above all, you will acquire real power, that of “control” your positive emotions and make them spring up on demand.
The grounding technique in NLP
Widely used in NLP (neurolinguistic programming), the anchoring technique is based on a physiological reflex to the evocation of a pleasant stimulus. The idea is to make a voluntary gesture (clench fist…) which is associated with a special feeling, before regain, at his own pace, contact with reality.
1. You determine the emotional state you desire
What emotional state do you want to see appear when you practice your gesture-stimulus? You don’t necessarily have to limit yourself to a feeling of welfareit can be for example a state of motivationa feeling of concentration extreme, from a state of serenityetc.
2. You remember an experience where you had this state
Search your memories an event where you strongly felt the emotional state you wish to anchor.
3. You choose a singular stimulus
Define an anchor gesture that will allow you to anchor the desired state. It must be a single stimulus, that is to say a gesture that is not likely to be ambiguous because you use it all the time, in any situation. Snapping your fingers is not necessarily relevant but, for example, connect your middle finger with your thumb can become a distinctive single stimulus.
4. You train yourself to feel this state to validate the anchoring
You will train yourself to feel the emotional state you desire by visualizing past experience and there associating this gesture. This is called setting the anchor. By practicing a visualization, you will install, feel and relive the emotion in question. The intensity of the emotional state will go crescendo.
As the emotion builds in intensity, uses the stimulus and maintain your gesture as long as the emotional intensity continues to grow. Then, you repeat the exercise several times a day to validate it. After a while, you will find that the stimulus alone is able to bring about the emotional state you desire.
