In practice, you may well be able to ask your doctor for a prescription for a morning-after pill to use “just in case” for your daughter. Besides, even a postmenopausal grandmother can do it! This preventive demand is encouraged by doctors and public health, because it helps prevent unwanted pregnancies and abortions. For the same reasons, I also advise you to have at your disposal a pregnancy test which can also be bought in pharmacies, but is not covered.
What to say to your daughter?
I strongly advise you to not to seek to investigate his intimate life, even if it is close to your heart – and rightly so. You can just tell her, “Know that I have a morning after pill in my closet, and I also have a pregnancy test. If ever a friend of yours has an anxiety, especially remember to ask me. won’t ask you any questions! You know, there are girls or boys who have difficulty telling their parents about it and I know it can be very difficult … “
Take the opportunity to tell a story from your entourage, that of a young woman in distress who had to have an abortion without support or who had a very young child without wanting to. In this way, you can approach this question indirectly and in a more personalized way, express your sadness at this type of situation and your desire to avoid it to all the young girls around you. Unfortunately, almost everyone knows of cases where this has happened …
You will position yourself as an adult who is a resourceful and responsible person, without becoming intrusive, which is precious for a young girl. She will understand very well that this can eventually be of use to her as well.
Give her the choice of method of contraception
My advice is not to encourage your daughter to take it, but rather to give her the choice of what type of contraception is best for her and when to start. If she doesn’t have a boyfriend, she probably doesn’t need contraception. This is a common situation at 17. You can give him the name of the family planning clinic near you or the name of a gynecologist you like, so that you can tell him: “When you need it, I advise you to go for a consultation there.”
Give him that freedom, and also give him enough money to pay for a consultation if necessary. On the other hand, remember to let her know that the day she needs it, she must ask her boyfriend to come and consult with her. It seems essential to me to encourage men to participate in contraception, since they participate in sexual relations! On the other hand, the choice of contraception is ideally made for two.
What if you have a boy?
Explain the same things to her: the address of a doctor who may prescribe contraception, the possibility of the morning-after pill or pregnancy test (which you have) and the advice to accompany her friend during a consultation of contraception! Because a boy, too, can “do stupid things” as you say …
Editor’s note: the use of condoms also makes it possible to protect oneself from an STI.
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