In a relationship, it can happen to feel what we call internal signals. In other words, we can have an intuition because in fact our unconscious will pick up a certain number of signs that our conscious does not decode. And it leaves a mark that results in a weird feeling of unease. “Something seems to bother us … we are not going to rely on very precise things because it is a bit of a sensory perception that guides us like an intuition … It does not happen on the conscious level. also perceives behavioral changes in our partner …. and that, we will notice … it is more conscious “, decrypts Géraldyne Prévôt-Gigant, psychopractor.
In general, we will observe certain signs: less proximity, communication that will become different, a changing schedule, declining availability, etc. All these visible clues show that something is wrong.
Beware of interpretations
But beware, the discovery of these signs should not lead to hasty conclusions, and it happens that there are often misunderstandings or unspoken whose effects can be formidable. “Someone who is used to being very demonstrative and who is more distant in terms of his tenderness is not necessarily someone who is cheating on you. It may also mean that there is a more serious problem that is sometimes difficult to talk about. It could be an illness, a problem at work, etc. that’s why you have to be very careful in interpreting things you notice about your partner “, warns the specialist.
If it is important to notice a change in behavior in your partner, it is essential to be wary of interpretations because there may be other explanations. The only solution, of course, is to strike up a conversation to try to figure out what is wrong. Our partner may be hiding something from us, but not necessarily a deception.
Talk about the discomfort felt and observe the reaction
Communication remains the basis in a couple. Already, we have to know if he agrees to talk about it or not. “If he runs away, or gets angry, that may be a clue that there may be a fault “, specifies the psychopractor. Sometimes communication is impossible because the partner does not take responsibility and wants to continue to hide. The best way to do this is to explain that you are feeling something that is unwell and to ask if there is anything wrong.
Especially not to say “I saw you having this or that attitude so I’m sure you’re cheating on me”. This is where we will close all communication because the partner is bound to steer. After all depends on the character of each and the couple relationship that exists. Some will find the refusal to speak unbearable, while others will adapt to the situation without reacting. Others will be able to feel humiliated or rejected by not feeling listening or willingness to communicate face to face.
How to move forward?
If we are certain that our partner is unfaithful to us, either because he confessed it during the conversation, or because we have convincing clues and not guesses, it is extremely difficult to give rules or a advice. We just have one thing to do, and that is to land in front of ourselves for a deep introspection. Do we love each other enough to have to go through this? “This is the essential question to ask”, concludes Géraldyne Prévôt Gigant. Especially if we discover that it is not a passing fad, but a relationship that lasts. In any case, it is essential to think about yourself, about what you want or want more, before making any decision.
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