January 6, 2017.
All children who grew up with siblings know it: jealousy is an integral part of family life. But how to manage it and how to ensure that it does not turn into conflict?
How to explain jealousy?
Moms pregnant with their second child have all seen that this pregnancy was not always viewed positively by the first child. The latter she will be more cuddly, will require more attention and will not hesitate to have small fits to be heard. This is one of the first signs of jealousy that manifests itself within a sibling.
But this jealousy does not end with the birth of the little brother or sister. Throughout childhood and even in adulthood, points of jealousy punctuate family life. ” Why did he get this game and not me? “” Forwhat can he do such activity and not me? “” Why is my brother the darling? To answer these questions intelligently, it is first necessary to understand that they are very often manifestations of fear of losing parental attention and love.
The expression of a feeling of abandonment
Jealousy is natural, it just needs to be accompanied. In his work No more jealousy between siblings (Editions First), which has just been published, psychologist Roxane Fontaine explains the role that parents must play in the management of this jealousy. ” A birth is good news, it just takes take the time beforehand to explain to your child that the arrival of the baby will not change the love that his parents have for him »And jealousy will fade, she explains to our colleagues from 20 minutes.
If, however, this feeling of jealousy does not manage to subside, we must not lose heart and to pay extra attention to the jealous child : offer him a one-on-one lunch, do a fun activity especially with him or not hesitate to promote him in public. If jealousy is the perfect expression of the feeling of abandonment, the best answer is to show that we will always be there.
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