Manipulation through jealousy is a complex and nuanced reality.
- Jealousy manipulation in romantic relationships can take many forms. It is one of the most subtle and destructive.
- Several researches in psychology show that narcissists use this technique a lot because it makes their partner vulnerable, thus facilitating control and manipulation in the relationship.
- While not all narcissists use this tactic, it is important to remain vigilant against these potentially destructive dynamics by favoring relationships based on mutual respect and trust.
The behavior of narcissistic people in their romantic relationships raises many questions. The topic in particular of emotional manipulation through jealousy has been the subject of extensive psychological study.
Do narcissists deliberately use jealousy to manipulate?
Manipulation within romantic relationships can take many forms, but perhaps one of the most subtle and destructive is the instigation of jealousy. This tactic, often associated with people with narcissistic traits, has been highlighted in psychology research.
The results showed a clear trend: jealousy provocation is an important tool for narcissists because it makes their partner vulnerable, thus facilitating control and manipulation in the relationship. The intention is therefore not so much infidelity but rather the creation of doubts and insecurities.
What are their underlying motivations?
Narcissists’ motivations for inducing jealousy are diverse. First, it boosts their own self-esteem, making them feel more valuable and important.
Second, it gives them a sense of control over the relationship, reinforcing their power. And finally, it gets their partner’s attention, even if that attention is based on insecurity rather than genuine affection.
However, be careful with generalization
If these results demonstrate the possibility for the narcissist to use jealousy in his romantic relationships to manipulate his/her partner, this does not mean that all narcissists use it. This personality type being particularly complex, behaviors and motivations can vary from one individual to another.
However, it is important to remain vigilant in the face of these potentially destructive dynamics by favoring relationships based on mutual respect and trust. In a healthy relationship, both partners work together to support their individual needs and goals, while respecting their boundaries and personal autonomy.
Learn more: Gregory K. Tortoriello et al. “Do narcissists try to make romantic partners jealous on purpose? An examination of motives for deliberate jealousy-induction among subtypes of narcissism”. Personality and Individual Differences. Volume 114, 1 August 2017, Pages 10-15.
