In adolescence, the best friend is usually someone of the same sex, and you often have to wait until summer to meet new people and be able to hope to turn fantasies into practice.
Because sexual maturity sets in fairly quickly in adolescence, and with it – and that’s a pretty cool side of the human brain – the imagination and its attendant new sensations. Sensations, moreover, often repressed, because they rarely correspond to the discourse of most parents who, overwhelmed by the sexuality of their child, would like their sex life to begin as late as possible; which is unfortunately no longer very often the case.
Adolescence, which medicine places between 13 and 19 years old, is now an age marked by several sexual experiences; most often with different partners, but also sometimes with a single partner. There is no rule or advice for this. Few adolescents – less than 10% – have multiple sexual partners, or have several at the same time. This figure of 10% is increasing steadily, however, and perhaps explains the increase, also regular, in the number of sexually transmitted diseases.
It is also at the center of the discussion that must be had with a child. With the key point: the imperative wearing of the condom. Your son must have some. Your daughter must know how to impose it.
Because you have to talk about sexuality with your children. Sexuality education should theoretically start before kindergarten and gradually continue over the years with more specific conversations. Be informative, and especially not preachy. Never scare people, even if you have to discuss contraception, abortion, pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.
But you should also explain to your child, before he is confronted, the feelings that should be related to sexuality. In particular, especially for boys, respect for his partner. The teenager must absolutely not give in to the pressure of his friends and especially keep the independence of the choice of the moment, because the first flirt is the beginning of the great adventure of sex, unpredictable for the parents, and above all, inevitable. Often experienced in a very different way depending on the sex. Girls are often frightened, guilty, embarrassed, worried; while the boy feels the instinct of the horny, satisfied and happy little guy.
For me, she was a pretty blonde, and I admit it for the first time today, I still regret not having gone further …
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