Is it really because of your child that you get angry?
If it happens to any parent to get angry in front of their child, it is not always in reaction to what they have done. For some it is an automatic response acquired since childhood, for others it all depends on the level of energy, sleep, or stress.
Take the time to analyze your reaction
While it is normal to feel anger rising in you when your child has broken a rule or cries continuously for no apparent reason, generally this emotion depends on his own psychological state. To find out, ask yourself about your response to certain situations.
Take the time to understand your reaction and possibly find a link with your level of fatigue, your hunger, or your stress which can accentuate your reaction towards your child.
Be honest with yourself and your child
By analyzing your reaction, you may be able to make a connection with certain times of the day, such as in the evening after work or before eating, for example. If so, be honest with yourself and try to adapt your organization to avoid being in an already very high level of tension when you are with your child.
It is therefore preferable to take 5 minutes to breathe, drink or eat something when you get home to calm you down and give you the energy you need for the evening.
If you really lose control of your anger, do not hesitate to tell your child honestly by explaining to him: “I lost patience when you did not want to put away your toy, but it is not your fault, I had a hard day at work, I apologize for my reaction”. You help him to better recognize his emotions and avoid guilt vis-à-vis your reaction.
Find out more: “The keys to anger: Survival manual for parents on the verge of a nervous breakdown” by Noémie de Saint-Sernin, Eyrolles editions.
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