When a partner lacks commitment in the couple, it is not necessarily related to feelings.
- To build a stable couple relationship, the commitment of both partners is necessary.
- This commitment does not necessarily involve marriage or the fact of having children. It can take different forms through everyday life with respect, honesty or small attentions to please the other.
Dealing with a person who refuses to commit to a higher stage can be a blow to the relationship. However, if the causes can be multiple, they are not always related to the lack of feelings.
What’s behind this fear of commitment?
Living together, getting married, or even having children marks a sign of stronger commitment to each other. However, during a refusal, it is important to open the dialogue to understand what scares and threatens the relationship.
Not wanting to commit can simply be related to the responsibilities and obligations of a home or parent, or sometimes a fear of routine or a lack of personal space. Questioning what prevents the person from committing therefore makes it possible to find a compromise without necessarily calling into question the relationship.
How to react if your partner does not want to commit?
First of all, accepting to hear what your partner thinks on this subject makes it possible to understand, or not, what prevents him from going further. To help you, you can take the time to think about what you really want, and why not negotiate a deadline to take this step.
Also ask yourself about your own motivations for this commitment, and what you really expect from it. Finally, if you really can’t find a way out, breaking up may be the solution for both of you.
Learn more: “Come, we love each other: Our couple notebook” by Soazig Castelnerac de Syld.
