What responsibilities should I give my child according to his age?

To give responsibilities to your child is to help him grow.

Preparing your child from an early age to be independent means making him later an adult who knows how to manage himself and take responsibility. Whether it’s getting dressed, washing, setting the table, tidying up, making their bed or managing their homework, an independent child develops their confidence and self-esteem while taking pleasure in imitating adults.

How to give autonomy to your child?

To promote their autonomy, nothing better than instilling good habits in a relaxed, joyful and playful way. It can be to play while we tidy up the room, to show him that you are having fun and that it can be a moment of sharing with your family.

Some tasks, however, such as homework or tidying up, are non-negotiable. They must then be explained regularly to the child without scolding him or seeing him as a personal failure. By maintaining good habits, he will become more and more independent and responsible.

At what age should autonomy be given?

The earlier we start, the more the children demand autonomy and responsibility. However, we cannot ask them everything at any age, it is important to adapt:

From 18 months to 3 years old: wash and dry hands, clean small areas, and put toys in the same place, all under supervision.
From 3 to 4 years old: hang up their own coat, put their clothes in the drawers and clean their place at the table.
From 4 to 5 years old: pour themselves their own drink, help clear the table and put their toys away.

Little by little, by maintaining his daily autonomy, help and tidying up become automatic and your child learns to assume his responsibilities.

Find out more: “Children of autonomy: Help your children develop their relational and emotional potential”, by Jean-Jacques Crevecoeur, Editions Jouvence.