Anger comes from fear and feelings of betrayal.
Anger is a primary emotion that we feel when we have been despised, betrayed or looked down upon. In times of global pandemic, fear can breed anger in the face of danger that pushes us to adapt. Expressing it consciously can be a driving force to make things evolve.
A necessary archaic emotion
Like joy, sadness and fear, anger is a necessary primary emotion that leads us to defend ourselves in the face of danger. If the economic crisis, the climate crisis, the feeling of insecurity, or the health crisis are forms of threats and uncertainties that can trigger anger, personal situations of violence, danger or humiliation can also be involved.
Whether expressed through verbal or physical violence, anger is often very loud, excessive and untimely. However, repressing it can be a source of psychological suffering and jeopardize well-being and personal, social and professional relationships. So to live your anger well, it is better to express it in a conscious and constructive way.
How to turn your anger into something positive
If anger is not always very popular, because sometimes perceived as a threat to others or a lack of control, it nevertheless has its advantages. Using it to assert your rights, preserve your ego or want to change a situation is to be able to make it a driving force for yourself and for others.
So rather than ruminating on it, using your anger punctually and in an understandable way, not only allows you to protect yourself but also to change a situation. However, it is not a question of giving up everything or “getting tricked”, but of learning how to live better with the frustrations of everyday life, accepting ourselves and tolerating that others are not exactly what we would like them to be.
Find out more: “Express your anger without losing control” by Didier Pleux, Odile Jacob editions.
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