Even if sexual arousal is at half mast, it is possible to find the flame of desire after many years as a couple.
After several years of living together, it is normal to know each other by heart and to experience a certain sexual weariness. Without renewal, desire is exhausted and sexuality becomes almost non-existent. Yet even after 20, 30 or 40 years together, new ideas can spice up love and sexuality.
Use experience as an asset
There comes a time when longtime lovers know each other by heart, know what the other likes and know their own sexual interests. Knowing your own body and that of your partner can however become a very advantageous asset for a fulfilling sexuality.
Rather than dictating to the other what you want, instinct takes over and all you have to do is let yourself be guided by trust and the desire to give yourself pleasure. Lovemaking is thus more fulfilling and rewarding, even if it is less frequent than at the beginning of the relationship.
Introduce something new into your routine
Improving your sexuality and your desire when you already have several years of a couple behind you sometimes involves the idea of taking on a lover or a mistress. However, infidelity is far from the only way to spice up your sexuality.
To invite novelty, all you have to do is take on new challenges and shake up your comfort a little. Whether it’s a new place, a surprise, or the use of an accessory (handcuffs, camera, game, costumes…), the main thing is to challenge each other together.
Do not hesitate to use your experience to the benefit of your imagination to better surprise your partner and have fun finding new scenarios that rekindle your desire for each other.
Find out more: “The sexual decoder”, by Yves-Alexandre THALMANN, Pocket editions.
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