When a new relationship begins, it is essential to establish a foundation of trust and mutual understanding.
The beginnings of a relationship are often marked by enthusiasm and curiosity. For many, this phase is also an opportunity to envisage a common future. However, there are some questions and expectations worth addressing up front to build a strong relationship.
Talk about values and life projects
One of the first steps to laying a solid foundation is to discuss the values and projects that are important to you. Values are the basis of most decisions and can affect various subjects: work, family life, social or environmental commitment, etc.
This type of conversation allows us to better understand each other’s priorities and to assess whether compromises are possible or necessary. Likewise, sharing one’s long-term life plans, such as the desire to settle in another country or buy a house, helps to measure the compatibility of each person’s aspirations.
Addressing the past and significant experiences
Opening a dialogue about your past often helps create a climate of trust and intimacy. Recounting childhood memories, positive experiences or even difficult moments helps you discover others in depth.
Past relationships, although sensitive, can also be addressed, while remaining respectful. Briefly discussing significant experiences, such as infidelity suffered or experienced, can help avoid future misunderstandings. This does not mean revealing everything, but giving an overview of what has shaped your expectations in love.
Define financial and relational expectations together
Managing money and family or friendly relationships can sometimes be a source of tension in a couple. It is therefore essential to address these themes from the start, with a view to transparency and trust. When it comes to money, discussing savings habits, debts or joint financial projects avoids unpleasant surprises.
Furthermore, the place of friends and family in a relationship also deserves to be clarified. Some people value quality time with friends, while others prefer a more intimate environment. Respecting and understanding the social relationships of others promotes harmonious coexistence.
Learn more: “Happy Couples Have Their Secrets: The Seven Laws of Success” by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver.
