Rebecca Barker, a British nurse now living in France, has been addicted to sex. In order to challenge the public authorities on this still too poorly recognized evil, she told the hell that she experienced on the BBC.
“Making love five times a day wasn’t even enough for me anymore.” So begins the poignant testimony of Rebecca Barker, a 37-year-old British nurse, for the BBC. The young woman, mother of three, from North Yorkshire, defines herself as a former sex addict and would like to challenge the public authorities on this addiction still too ignored according to her.
“It started after the birth of my third child and I was depressed, I started to want sex more often”, she explains. in the video published Tuesday on the BBC website on the subject of the evil that gnawed at him from 2014. A change that was not without displeasing his partner. At the beginning at least.
An unmanageable stadium
“I was lucky that we worked together from home so we had the opportunity to do it a lot,” says Rebecca. “At first he liked it enough. After a few months he started to get suspicious and wonder why I wanted to have sex so often. He ended up accusing me of adultery. He must have thought I was. felt guilty and that was why I wanted to sleep with him, ”she recalls.
Because this desire for sex quickly reached an unmanageable stage. “It was literally the first thing I thought of when I stood up. I just couldn’t get the idea out of my head,” says Rebecca. And to detail: “It was as if everything reminded me of sex. My whole body was crying out for it. After sex, I felt good immediately. But five minutes later, I needed it again”.
No more companion or social life
This addiction will ultimately get the better of his romantic relationship, his companion feeling completely overwhelmed, but also of his social life. “I got to a point where it was the only thing I could think of. It had become painful to go out to my house. I was staying locked in my house, because I was ashamed. other people was very uncomfortable to me “. At that time, “I felt like nothing could help me,” she recalls. In order to get out of it, the young woman decided to change jobs and even countries. She moved to France and, now finally out of the woods, she decided to testify so that sex addiction is recognized by the National Health Service, the medical authorities in the United Kingdom, as a real addiction and treated in same as alcoholism or drug addiction.
Because if it is the subject of many debates, sex addiction is not yet referenced by the diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (DMS-IV) under addiction. Just like in the United Kingdom, where Rebecca could not receive any public aid, in France, this disease is very rarely treated in hospitals, and patients must go to specialized psychoanalysts in the hope of getting better. But no drug is currently able to overcome it. So, failing to receive appropriate treatment, “emotional and sexual addicts” can always turn to the DASA (Anonymous Affective and Sexual Dependents), a federation which, through anonymous meetings, offers a twelve-step solution, very focused around God, to help people who feel the need.
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