Here is the dawn of a new life, of course, but that is not limited to the art of being a grandparent … The time has come to reap the fruits of the experience, to embark on projects. more personal, to cultivate friendship (and more if affinities).
The “mid-life crisis”: can we escape it?
A page closes. If we are still far from old age, we have also definitely left youth. This body that we had tended to forget, caught between professional race and family responsibilities, we rediscover it as a threat, whether because of the first wrinkles, disorders of the menopause, or medical tests that are starting to deviate from the norm. We can also be shocked when a child leaves the home, or when a job escapes us because it is reserved for those under 45. “As long as we assume in addition the decline of his parents, or their disappearance, we then become aware, clearly or confusedly, of the finitude of existence”, explains Françoise Millet-Bartoli, psychiatrist and psychotherapist. A reality that is not that easy to deal with mentally.
A sense of achievement
This period changes our outlook on life. “It feels a bit like a Sunday afternoon which sees the end of the weekend approaching too quickly”, compares Françoise Millet-Bartoli. We still have time ahead of us, but this is the last chance to do with our life what we want, we face a kind of “now or never”. Obviously, we take stock of this time that has passed so quickly: “Should we continue like this? “,” Did I really find myself or did I get lost on the way? “,” Does my life really have meaning? “, Etc. “No one can escape these essential questions, emphasizes Françoise Millet-Bartoli, but they do not necessarily lead to a crisis. On the other hand, if the results are considered negative, that we think we have not made the right choices, it can lead to deep questioning. Depressed, panic or desire to change everything: the crisis will be all the more intense if we have the feeling of a gap between what we deeply feel and the role we assume, or if we have the impression of having always conformed to the desires of others without following one’s own, of having moved forward out of duty, out of obligation, or of having gone astray by pursuing chimeras.
In search of oneself
Introspection pays off. It indicates the path to follow in order to assert yourself and flourish more. Realizing what we have not experienced, or what we have experienced but no longer want, can change our priorities, or even lead to a real change of course. The crisis can thus lead to a new positive start. As long as he doesn’t get caught on a whim.
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