Learning to forgive is an act that releases negative emotions that “rotten” our lives. It’s not about validating the reprehensible or immoral acts of someone who has hurt you. The purpose of forgiveness is not to restore contact but to sever the bond. You have to know how to forgive in order to move on and move on…
In love as in friendship, when a person we love and care for hurts or disappoints us, it is normal to badly live it and to feel betrayed.
It is generally believed that forgiving means relieving the other or denying the harm they have done to us. But forgiveness is not only a chance that you offer to the other, it is also a chance you give yourself to yourself.
Forgive to break the link
To forgive is not to forget, it is to stop hurting yourself because of someone who hurt you. Those who hurt you helped you become the person you are today. If you choose to remain their victim, you will continue to suffer the consequences. The purpose of forgiveness is not no reestablishing contact but of cut the link.
Above all, forgiveness makes you think about something other than the person who betrayed you. You you free yourself from a ball and chain which maintains your stress and resentment. It’s not about the other person, it’s about you.
Imagine forgiveness as a wide open door which leads to serenity. You have to bend down to enter it because you have to silence your ego, but you have everything to gain.
In this sense, forgiveness is a key to happiness for the person giving it. Forgiveness is as good for morale as it is for well-being. It’s like turning a page in your life to move on.
Forgive to move forward
Shakespeare said: To forgive is a nobler and rarer action than to take revenge. Forgiveness does not consist in absolving the other and freeing him from his guilt. No, it’s not a gift you’re giving her, but a gift you give yourself to yourself. For you, it is a step towards inner peace.
By forgiving, you will release stress, get back to sleep at night and be happier. This is a step that will allow you to get rid of the suffering and anger that have prevented from moving forward for so long.
The very moment you decide to leave all your resentments in the locker room, you find the peace of mind and the serenity. The precise moment when you grant your forgiveness, you regain a certain quality of life.
Learn to forgive to stay strong
Indira Gandhi said: The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the prerogative of the strong. Nothing could be more true, forgiveness is a demonstration of strength. It requires great resources to realize thatputting aside resentmentswe will be able to evolve better and progress more easily in life.
You do not forgive because you are weak, but because you know manage your emotions. You know that negative emotions such as stress, resentment, hatred or the desire for revenge “gnaw” you from the inside and rob you of your vital energy. Make no mistake, forgiveness is an act of strength that takes courage and character.
Forgiveness is not an immediate act
Nor is forgiveness an immediate act. which acts at the moment of the will to forgive. Some people may feel guilty for not being able to forgive themselves or others. Sometimes out of religious conviction, they would like to free themselves from resentment and go immediately to forgiveness.
You have to know how to forgive in order to move forward, but make no mistake about it: forgiveness is not just a decision. It is intimately linked to the worlds of emotions. You are not going to decide overnight to forgive someone who has hurt you. It is important to move at your own pace and take the necessary time depending on the seriousness of what happened.
Negative emotions are hard wounds to heal and it is better not to rush on the road to healing. The anger is a basic emotion which translates what you feel deep inside you. Your anger is genuine so let it rise and welcome it within you.
When your hatred, your resentment and your desire for revenge have given way to sadness, then perhaps the time will have come. But remember: you can only completely forgive if you have regained your serenity and your inner peace. Your forgiveness must be sincere, otherwise the wound will not be healed.
How to write a forgiveness letter?
Writing is a tool that has a high symbolic value. In this sense, it is a formidable effective way to release your emotions.
If you have decided to forgive, you can write a letter (without mailing it) to the person who betrayed or hurt you. Writing down your pain in black and white and pouring all the negative energy from the betrayal into it will free yourself from anger and resentment.
Say everything on your heart, don’t omit anything. Write down everything you would say to his face if he (or she) were there. Give details about everything you’ve been through because of this unfortunate story.
Then you can tear up the letter or, even better, burn it remembering all the pain you put down on the sheet of paper. This symbolic act will purify the negative energy it contains.
You will feel much lighter after doing this and you will then be able to enjoy the change that will take place in you.
The ability to forgive to move forward in life is not given to everyone, but you now have a tool to silence grudges, disillusions and betrayals that ruin your life. If you manage to forgive yourself, you will feel much better inside.
