Asexuality is not a disease but a sexual orientation.
Unlike abstinence, asexuality is not feeling the urge to have sex, whether with a man or a woman. It is therefore not a choice but a form of sexual orientation that is part of the personality.
You don’t choose to be asexual
Just like homosexuality, or heterosexuality, asexuality cannot be controlled but is felt within. Often mistaken as a desire for abstinence for various reasons, it is characterized by a total absence of desire for sexual relations in general, including masturbation.
If it can be a disease for some, it does not fit into any classification of psychiatric diseases and has nothing pathological about it.
How to deal with your asexuality
For asexuals who have no interest in sex, it is not a question of giving up, which can lead to frustration, but a lack of lasting desire. During attempts at sexual experiences, the absence of pleasure reinforces the conviction of not having a libido.
However, asexuals are not deprived of affective relationships, whether friendly or romantic. Many therefore wish to live as a couple with a spouse who accepts the absence of sexual relations.
To help them, many asexuals organize themselves into associations and even offer dating sites to discuss their asexuality and possibly meet a partner.
Learn more:
- Association for Asexual Visibility: https://www.asexualite.org/
- Aven-fr: https://en.asexuality.org/
- “No sex”, by Peggy Sastre, La Musardine editions.
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