The erogenous zones of men
Classically, it is said that the sensitive areas of man are very localized at the level of the penis and its sides (especially the glans and testicles), while they are much more diffuse and delocalized in women. This is certainly true at the start of male sex life, but not at all afterwards. We must return to the tasty plea of sexologist Gérard Leleu on man and caresses in his “Treatise on desire” (ed. Flammarion, 1997): “The man would tend to polarize all his sexuality on the sensuality of his penis. . This man’s difficulty in eroticizing his whole body is to be blamed on the myth of virility of which he is a victim. In the name of this virility, it is forbidden to be sensual, refined, moved, disturbed. […] So to conform to the image of the real male, the man thinks it is good to avoid caresses and other delicacies in order to simply “jump” on the female. […] That they [les hommes] finally decide to exploit this gold mine that is their sensuality. They will see that not only will their happiness increase, but that it will become almost inexhaustible. »Confirmed by the most recent discoveries on neuronal plasticity and the study of sexual functioning: the nervous system associated with pleasure is educated throughout life.
Practical advice to turn your man on
The advice of Brigitte Lahaie, ex-pornstar, in the book she co-authored with Frédéric Ploton, “So Sex” (Éditions du Seuil, 2006), can be very useful: “It is mainly the stimulation of the penis. , and more precisely the glans, which brings man to the point of no return. Other caresses can accompany him pleasantly but nothing will replace the sensation of his massaged glans for him. This is why the orifices likely to envelop her (vagina, mouth, anus) are particularly pleasant to her and conducive to a satisfactory orgasm. The ex-porn star adds, however, that a man’s pleasure will never be as strong as if he has to wait to reach it. Alternating periods of excitement and rest would therefore be the magic recipe to ignite it.
And the prostate, is it a particularly sensitive area?
It is indeed a sensitive area, sometimes very eroticized for some. It is the small contractions of this gland during ejaculation that provide a great deal of pleasure. According to the “Petit Larousse de la Sexualité” (2007): “Prostate stimulation is a preliminary appreciated by many men who find it a very effective source of excitement. Some even consider the prostate to be the equivalent of the G-spot. Its stimulation can be superficial by gentle pressure on the perineum between the scrotum. [bourses] or the anus, or more direct, by intromission of a finger into the anus, delicacy and good lubrication being essential. This type of caress can promote erection and even lead to ejaculation, whether one is heterosexual or homosexual. “That said, before trying the adventure, it is better to test the waters and check the reaction of your partner (” And that, you like? “), Some men, even homos, do not appreciate this practice at all, too medically (rectal examination) or sexually (gay universe) connotations.
How long does it take for him to get an erection?
In the absence of erectile dysfunction or from a previous report too close together, the erection is almost instantaneous and can continue for a few minutes (even tens), the time that the arousal phase lasts. But beware, the stampede can occur as quickly, in a few seconds, if the man notices that his partner is bored, is thinking of something else or judges him awkward. Beyond the fifties and even more certainly of the sixties, the erection is longer to come, sometimes after several minutes, even if the stimulation is adequate.
