Humor is a powerful lever for calming tense situations and encouraging children’s cooperation.
It is sometimes difficult to manage the little daily worries with children. Faced with their frustrations, their screams or their tears, it can be tempting to give in to annoyance. However, by using humor kindly, it is possible to defuse certain tensions and establish a climate of relaxation.
A caring communication tool
When faced with a frustrated or angry child, adopting a playful attitude can help reduce tension. For example, when your child is having trouble getting dressed, rather than getting impatient, you can tell them in a playful tone: “That jacket refuses to come out this morning, she’s really stubborn!” “. Or, if he falls down at the park and starts crying, you can say, “Oh no, I think we’re going to have to put a robot leg on you!” »
By using humor in a light way, the child will focus more on the game than on the difficulty, which ultimately encourages him to cooperate and put things into perspective, without feeling pressure.
De-dramatize to learn better
Humor also has an educational dimension. It helps the child understand that certain situations, which may seem insurmountable, are not so serious. For example, if he gets frustrated with a scattered puzzle and starts to get angry, turning tidying up into a game can change everything.
By seeing his parents approach difficulties lightly, the child learns not to let himself be overwhelmed by his emotions. He thus develops his own sense of humor, which will help him to play down the drama and approach challenges with more serenity throughout his life.
Know how to use humor kindly
However, it is essential to use humor wisely. The goal is not to ridicule the child or minimize their emotions. If he’s already feeling hurt or frustrated, a poorly placed joke could make the situation worse.
Irony should also be avoided with toddlers. Before the age of 4 or 5, children do not always understand the second degree, and this type of humor could destabilize them. It is best to adopt a light and direct tone, adapted to their level of understanding.
Finally, if humor doesn’t seem to be working, it is important to use other strategies, such as helping them verbalize their emotions or offering comfort.
Find out more: “Educate without burning out! Tools for a positive education that sets limits” by Alan Kazdin.
