Do you have the feeling that you lack self-confidence and, as a result, you find it difficult to assert yourself? Discover a simple technique to practice every morning to improve self-esteem in the long term. To start, stop looking for your own value in the eyes of others
Self-esteem is the perception we have of our own worth. And when we lack it, it’s usually because there’s a great shift between the person we think we are and the person we wish we were.
Self-esteem is not in the eyes of others
When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we tend to seek comfort by comparing ourselves to others. We want proof that we are better than them (or better off) and therefore we would have every reason to trust ourselves. But it doesn’t work because self-esteem does not depend on the judgment of others.
Many people need others to recognize their value in order to feel good. They rely on others to fulfill their need of recognition because they are incapable of estimating themselves at their fair value.
Instead of feeling comfortable in their sneakers, they look for ways to shine in the eyes of others, to prove their worth. They want demonstrate their superiority by working harder, by displaying what they have, by recounting their exotic travels or their extraordinary weekends.
By doing this, they are actually expressing a feeling of self-satisfaction which must be nurtured, or so they hope, by the admiration of others.
If we only consider self-esteem by looking at how others perceive us, we can’t get very far. It remains one external perception which remains distant from what we experience internally on an emotional level.
Do not look for your own value in the eyes of others. This invariably ends up damaging your relationship with them. In addition, by placing yourself in a situation of demand, you risk entering into a emotional dependency relationship.
A morning routine to improve self-esteem
There is, however, a simple way to improve your self-esteem and it is an exercise that you can adopt and practice overnight.
It’s about wearing an objective look at oneselfits advantages, its accomplishments, its sources of well-being, finally all the things that we experience or that we have achieved and that contribute directly to our well-being and our quality of life.
There are so many things we should be happy about every day…
It’s as easy as that: every morning, list all the objective reasons why you should feel good about yourself.
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We are not talking about a series of irrefutable proofs that show that you are better than the others and that those around you and your colleagues should be impressed by your prowess. No, stop thinking about those who judge you!
We are talking about a factual list of your accomplishments and your real reasons for satisfaction which could look like this:
- I have graduated with honors and it is a source of pride.
- I do my job conscientiously and it shows that I know how to take my responsibilities and thatyou can trust me.
- I have four wonderful friends, Lucie, Isa, Lisa and Estelle, who can count on me. I’m happy tobe by their side in good times and in bad.
- I have the opportunity to work from home, and Iavoid wasting time in the transports.
- I managed to put some money aside, which gives me a few months of security if needed.
- I love my style of dress because he looks like me and reflects my personality well.
Every morning, you’re going to wake up finding new reasons why you feel good about yourself. Self-esteem grows from withinthrough lived experiences and the evidence that goes with them.
The goal of this routine is to realize that you are capable, that you are worthy, that you are living the life you want to live, in line with your principles, and that you feel really good today.
If you don’t adopt this inner approach, you risk getting lost in your ego which is desperately seeking recognition in the eyes of others. It is certainly by comparing yourself to others that you will feel better about yourself.
Remind yourself every morning of all the good reasons why you can enjoy being yourself and feel good about yourself. Self-esteem needs to be worked on and cultivated!
