Do you feel that you lack self-confidence and suddenly find it difficult to assert yourself? Discover a simple technique to practice every morning to improve self-esteem over the long term. To get started, stop looking for your own worth in the eyes of others.
Self-esteem is our perception of our own worth. And when we run out, there is usually a big shift between who we think we are and who we want to be.
Self-esteem is not in the eyes of others
When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we tend to seek comfort in comparing ourselves to others. We want proof that we are better than them (or in a more enviable position) and therefore we would have every reason to be confident in ourselves. But it doesn’t work because self-esteem does not depend on the judgment of others.
Many people need others to recognize their worth in order to feel good. They rely on others to fill their need of recognition because they are incapable of valuing themselves.
Instead of feeling comfortable in their sneakers, they look for ways to shine in the eyes of others, to prove their worth. They want demonstrate their superiority by working harder, by displaying what they have, by recounting their exotic trips or their extraordinary weekends.
By doing this, they are actually expressing a feeling of self-satisfaction which must be nurtured, at least they hope, by the admiration of others.
If we only look at self-esteem by looking at how others see us, we can’t get very far. It remains one external perception that stays away from what we experience internally on an emotional level.
Do not look for your own worth in the eyes of others. This invariably ends up degrading your relationship with them. In addition, by placing yourself in a demand situation, you risk entering a emotional dependency relationship.
A morning routine to improve self-esteem
However, there is a simple way to improve your self-esteem and it is an exercise that can be adopted and practiced overnight.
It’s about wearing an objective look at oneself, its advantages, its achievements, its sources of well-being, finally all the things that we experience or that we have achieved and which directly contribute to our well-being and our quality of life.
There are so many things we should be celebrating every day …
It’s that easy: every morning, list all objective reasons why you should feel good about yourself.
We are not talking about a series of irrefutable evidence that shows that you are better than others and that those around you and your colleagues should be in awe of your prowess. No, stop thinking about those who judge you!
We are talking about a factual list of your accomplishments and your real reasons for satisfaction which might look like this:
- I have graduated with honors and that is a source of pride.
- I do my job conscientiously and it shows that I know how to take my responsibilities and thatyou can trust me.
- I have four wonderful friends, Lucie, Isa, Lisa and Estelle, who can count on me. I am happy tobe by their side in good times and in bad.
- I have the possibility to work from home, and Iavoid wasting time in the transports.
- I managed to put some money aside, which gives me a few months of security if needed.
- I love my dress style because he looks like me and reflects my personality well.
Every morning you will wake up to find new reasons why you feel good about yourself. Self-esteem grows from within, through lived experiences and the evidence that goes with it.
The goal of this routine is to realize that you are capable, that you are worth, that you are living the life that you want to live, in tune with your principles, and that you are living the life you want to live. you feel really good today.
If you do not adopt this inner approach, you risk losing yourself in your ego which, for its part, is desperately seeking recognition in the eyes of others. Comparing yourself to others is sure to make you feel better about yourself.
Remember every morning all the good reasons why you can rejoice to be yourself and feel good about yourself. Self-esteem can be worked on and cultivated!
