Depression: “What does not kill makes you stronger…”
“Like fever which tells us that our body is under attack, depression is an alarm signal which shows that something is wrong and that we will have to take care of it”, underlines Moussa Nabati. “Everything that does not kill us makes us stronger”, said the philosopher Nieztsche. “Rather than considering depression as a hindrance, we can see it as a way to redirect our life in the right direction,” says Charly Cungi. How to recognize depression? >> Read our article.
Whether it’s a little bit of depression or depression, it emphasizes a malaise. “She tells us: ‘Be careful, until now you haven’t been yourself, you haven’t respected yourself or you’ve denied yourself happiness, you’re condemning yourself to the spiral of failure. You managed to hold on but now you have reached your limits and you have to stop “”, translates Moussa Nabati. In short, it’s an opportunity to take charge of yourself to love yourself a little more, stop mistreating yourself to bounce back better .
markers of depression
“While the depression is temporary and often cyclical, due to a particular event, such as a separation, a dismissal, depression, it settles over time, explains the psychoanalyst Moussa Nabati. It is defined as a period of at least a fortnight marked by sadness and a lack of interest.”
Everything that once gave pleasure is no longer of interest, we no longer have a taste for anything. We devalue ourselves and our self-esteem is at zero. “The change is radical, specifies the shrink. The depressed person suddenly presents several blockages. Socially, she brutally disinvests her relationship, isolates herself. Her ability to love, to work, is upset. Psychologically, she is in slow motion : her will and her combativeness have disappeared. She is aware of this state and she suffers from it, denigrates herself and feels inferior to others.”
Of course, all of this can be treated with medication. “But to prevent relapse, it is better to combine treatment with psychotherapy, adds psychiatrist Charly Cungi. This will promote the resumption of activity and modify the perception that the person has of himself, by defusing his negative thoughts. ” A psychotherapy of a few months which will allow to understand the causes of his sadness, and by knowing himself better, to take stock of his life in order to finally be able to face it.
Naïma, 30 years old: “depression was a detonator”
Today I’m more resilient
“Five years ago, I went through a very serious depression. However, I had everything to be happy. While undergoing psychotherapy, I realized that my professional success did not satisfy me, the financial world did not satisfy me. had nothing to do with my childhood dreams. I stayed with my friend to reassure myself. I felt like I was missing out on my life. Depression was a detonator. I went back to school to become a school teacher, and I left my partner. Since then, every blues has been an opportunity to set the record straight on what I want in my life.”
Fighting depression very often requires calling in outside help. Where to turn? >> Read our article “Depression: who can help you?”
Our Experts
Moussa Nabati, psychoanalyst, research psychotherapist and doctor of psychology.
Charly Cungi, psychiatrist, specialist in behavioral therapies.
