Fantasy: in the arms of Brad Pitt
Do you sometimes imagine yourself in the arms of Brad Pitt or Monica Bellucci? And then you look at your partner who you haven’t had sex with in days and you feel guilty. It should not be, on the contrary. Our fantasies allow us to compensate for our very (too?) Orderly daily life and its frustrations. They also serve to rekindle our desire.
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The fantasy gives another image of oneself
To indulge in fantasy is to enjoy this freedom within oneself. The fantasy gives us another self-image, more exciting, bolder or more whimsical than what we are in reality. It creates excitement and a sexual desire that you can use to fuel your reality. Have you dreamed that you were passionately making love in nature and you were exhilarated? Why not take this opportunity to get closer to your partner, caress him and thus express your desire …
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In a fantasy it is our unconscious that speaks
Easy to say ? It is true that the fantasy, this dark side, does not always respond to the values of culture or morals which are ours. This is what can make it so disturbing, or sometimes so embarrassing. Do you dream that you are sleeping with your best friend’s husband? So hard not to feel guilty. Keep in mind that in a fantasy it is our unconscious that speaks: it does not necessarily reflect our desires, but just some of our animal impulses.
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Fantasy: difficult to act
Moreover, it would be unrealistic to take action. It is not by realizing your fantasy that you revitalize your sex life or a failing marital relationship. The fantasy is designed most of the time to remain inaccessible. Especially since the experience can be disappointing or… dangerous!
If that’s what you want, talk to your partner about it. Perhaps the conversation will be enough to raise the desire and will end in bed! If you want to engage your partner in the operation, make sure that he wants to participate and that he is not doing it coerced and forced. In swingers’ clubs, many women (or the other way around) are only there to please their husbands and live these experiences very badly… This does not help matters within the couple.
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