What if, instead of railing, we choose to celebrate our successes? The atmosphere would probably be a little better. To gripe less, it would therefore be a question of make the choice of happiness, whatever the circumstances.
“What matters is our ability to decide to live the present moment in a serene way, with its vagaries” comments Christine Lewicki, author of the book. I stop bitching. Let us not forget to give pleasure all the place it deserves and give ourselves little moments of happiness. We will have less opportunity to dwell on what is wrong. And, best of all, we’ll be healthier too!
Get started in mindfulness meditation
Mindfulness is a simple and accessible first step in meditation: it suffices, whatever the activity you practice, to devote yourself fully to it, to focus on it and the sensations it provides. , without letting his thoughts wander on something else (like our usual ruminations). This “centering” helps to slow down the often too fast pace of our activities and to find there a dose of peace and serenity. Find out here how to get started in 5, 10 or 15 minutes a day.
Stop dramatizing
When we moan, we often have tendency to exaggerate or dramatizer. “It is therefore very important to realize to what extent our emotions, our frustrations and our doubts come into play, underlines Christine Lewicki. Very often, our” interpretation “is far from the facts …” Hence the need to choose well his words, their impact on our life and that of those around us being crucial. Because, once pronounced, these negative judgments “take shape in our daily life”. Be careful, then.
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Identify your reflex complaints
We all have one! An automatic complaint that keeps coming back to our mouths and is triggered for nothing, like “I’m tired” or “I’m going to be late”. The idea, at first, is to become aware of it and to concentrate so as not to repeat it again. “If necessary, take steps to relieve your frustration, advises the coach. If you are suffering from being late, force yourself to leave ten minutes early.”
Measure your words
When we moan, we often have tendency to exaggerate or dramatizer. “It is therefore very important to realize how much our emotions, our frustrations and our doubts come into play, underlines Christine Lewicki. Very often, our” interpretation “is far removed from the facts …”
Hence the need to choose the right words, their impact on our life and that of those around us being capital. Because, once pronounced, these negative judgments “take shape in our daily life”. Be careful, therefore. How about learning compassionate communication?
Take an interest in others
Stop! Let’s stop focusing on our little self and think about the best way to help the people around us. It is about using our talents to put them at the service of others. Let’s sit down for a moment and ask ourselves what contribution we want to make in life. “When we make other people’s lives better, we lose all reason to complain, because we feel useful,” says Christine Lewicki in her book. Self-giving can indeed radically change everyday life.
Do not hesitate to ask for help : between private and professional life, we do not always manage to cope. So, rather than ruminating in our corner or screaming in the desert, let’s start by asking for help by asserting our needs, while being open to negotiation. Making a specific request is not giving an order. It is always “more pleasant to encourage others to help us rather than trying to force them,” recalls Christine Lewicki.
