Whoever says single at thirty immediately thinks of Bridget Jones who drowns her excess of frustration and weariness in a pot of ice cream in front of Pretty Woman. This image of the sad and desperate bachelor deserves to be dusted off, shows us a psychologist from the University of Auckland in New Zealand.
In the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, the scientist proves what a part of the single people already think, namely that one can very well to be alone and fulfilled. The quest for love with a capital A is not the priority for all free hearts. Some are very satisfied with celibacy, confirm the results of its survey of 4,000 New Zealanders aged 18 to 94, one-fifth of whom are single.
“Believing that celibacy makes less happy than being in a relationship is not true for everyone, corrects Yuthika Girme, author of the study. Singles can also be fully satisfied in their celibacy.” People who do not share their life with someone may very well find their happiness in building their friendly life and carrying out the personal projects that are important to them, believes the psychologist.
“Celibacy is not the negative experience that everyone thinks”
In fact, the single people who feel better alone than with two are those who fear the most conflicts within the couple and disappointments. For these, life alone is a lot smoother and less thorny path than married life. Those people who are afraid of conflicting relationships tend to be more unhappy in a relationship because they are exposed to more stress, loneliness and disappointment when the relationship is not going as well as it would have liked.
Conversely, Yuthika Girme has identified a typical profile of people more focused on the development and construction of the couple in the long term. These people are more prone to suffer from being single and are better off as a couple.
The myth of the Catherinette has lived. It’s time to accept that there are singles who are self-confident.
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