Top Santé: How did you come up with the idea for this account?
Camille: “At the origin of the account, there was a trigger: at a friend’s house, I hear around me that the discussion revolves around women, female pleasure, what to do – or not – to giving pleasure to a woman … I remember being completely flabbergasted by what my friends were saying. In fact, it had been a week since I had thought about the fact that I was using expressions not suitable for women like “I don’t care” or “I don’t give a fuck”. So I opened my account on Instagram entitled “I don’t care about the clit.” I made a post, then one, two, three and we know the rest, it’s pretty insane.
What stereotypes come up most often from men?
Camille: First of all, the lack of knowledge about female masturbation, I often hear me say “ah, but do you really masturbate women?” When they know that we masturbate, they are convinced that we do it less than them, for example once a month but never several times a day like men.
It is a misconception shared by men of all ages. The real problem is not that we masturbate less, it is that women do not say it. Female masturbation is not trivialized in the same way as male masturbation. You never hear women talk about “fingering themselves” like you hear men talk about “handjob”.
Another common stereotype is that girls don’t watch porn. And if they watch any, then these are cute movies.
On the other hand, the cliché according to which a girl, that does not sleep the first night, is a little less present among men. It’s starting to come in but that’s because it suits them too!
Finally I noticed that there was a lot of a priori about humping (sexual practice which consists of rubbing against something) which is often the first technique of masturbation. After doing a post where I said I had a humping session and it was worth it, I got 300-400 thank you messages from women who until now thought they were weird to do it, or thought they were the only ones doing it.
Your Instagram account helps to free the voice of women on their sexuality …
Indeed, like other accounts on the subject, “I don’t care about the clit” helps to free speech, to remove a shame, to lift a taboo that was omnipresent in almost all women. It helps to renew communication between women. In my posts, I say out loud what we think quietly. Many women recognize themselves in my publications and take better responsibility for their sexuality. They say to themselves: “I am completely normal”, “I am not a nympho”, or that it is normal to have desires or to like to masturbate. Even I, who am very liberated, since I created this account, I can finally discuss subjects like masturbation in a very cash way with my friends.
Where do these persistent taboos around female sexuality and stereotypes around femininity come from?
In my opinion, society plays a huge role in the taboos maintained around sexuality and women. We want women to be this or that. The rules issue is a good example: I came across an advertisement for the cupfeaturing a woman with white pants, super sexy. We try too much to spruce things up to show that having your period is girly, but it is not doing us a favor.
Education also plays a role in the way we approach these subjects. I see the difference between someone who was able to approach these questions without taboos with his parents, who was able to question, express himself and someone who was not able to do so. Me at home, talk masturbationTalking about menstruation or sexual intercourse was like saying “you bring back a baguette or wholemeal bread at noon”. It is true that society, education and culture maintain taboos, but mentalities are changing little by little and we want to change things. We must change the mentalities of everyone. This is not a women’s fight, by women for women. If we don’t try to integrate men, we are not going to succeed. It really makes me happy to see that there are more and more men who care about these topics, who look at my posts and agree with me. “
Are there any men subscribed to your account?
With around 13% men and 87% women, it is clear that there are few men. It is still not much but I know that many of them consult my account without subscribing, because they do not assume, for fear of the glance of a girlfriend, of their friends, or for fear of being taken for a guy looking at a girl account. But they send me private messages and enjoy what I do. The messages I send to men are kind and not guilty. Even without subscribing, the men who watch my account want to understanding female sexuality. Sometimes they realize that until then they had the wrong information.
My Instagram account is also a way to renew communication between the couple. For example, I receive messages telling me “it’s my boyfriend who introduced me to your account by sending me publications” or “I didn’t know how to approach sodomy, I sent a post “, or” I did not know how to tell him that when he made me cunnilingus it was not right, so I sent him a post.
I find happiness and satisfaction in making this Instagram account because I feel useful. “
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