By adopting conscious approaches, it is possible to rekindle the flame within the couple.
- Over time, the passion that animated the couple can crumble. Communication becomes more difficult and emotional intimacy diminishes.
- The couple seem to live together sharing only household chores and raising the children. We’re talking about roommate syndrome.
- Each partner must therefore participate actively in the reconstruction of intimacy, in particular by showing openness and through communication.
When passion fades and communication becomes more difficult, the couple find themselves living together, putting emotional intimacy aside. Yet everything is not lost if the partners are ready to engage in a process of renewal.
What is “roommate syndrome”?
With routine and time, love can lose its vigor and the bond that once united the couple can seem to fade. The “roommate syndrome” then sets in, when the partners coexist as good friends, sharing household chores or responsibilities, but without passion or sexuality, leaving room for an emotional void that is difficult to ignore.
Without necessarily stemming from major conflicts, this syndrome rather reflects a progressive loss of emotional and physical intimacy. Deep conversations and intimate moments become rare and the relationship evolves into a comfortable but passionless friendship.
How to regain lost intimacy?
To get out of the roommate syndrome, it is important to understand the factors that led to this loss of intimacy. The decline in desire for sexuality can result from a lack of emotional intimacy within the couple.
Each partner must therefore participate actively in the reconstruction of intimacy, in particular by showing openness and through communication. Expressing yourself sincerely and listening to the needs of the other are fundamental to restoring the emotional and physical intimacy once at the heart of the relationship.
Bring love back to life
With conscious efforts and actions thoughtful, he is possible to revive love and intimacy in the couple:
– Rediscover common interests as activities to do together.
– Create moments of intimacy to restore emotional closeness, such as sharing a bath, cooking together or creating.
– Take the time to arrange romantic one-on-one dates on a regular basis.
– Explore new experiences by getting out of your comfort zone to create unique and refreshing memories.
Learn more: “Self-therapy torque: improve communication, rediscover desire and break the routine” by Florence Alexandre and Sarah Mallet.
