Don’t leave your child unanswered if he catches you having sex.
At any age, your child may overhear or overhear your sex, and of course ask you what’s going on. For some, moans can be understood as cries of pain, hence the importance of reassuring and explaining to your child according to his age.
Reassure without going into details
Whether he heard you and asks you the question of what was going on, or whether he surprises you during your antics, your child is very likely to ask you questions about what is going on. Rather than telling him that it’s none of his business, simply explain to him that it’s hugs from grown-ups who love each other very much, for example.
Then invite him to go back to bed, and if he asks more questions, you can start talking to him about sex in words that are appropriate and understandable to him. For example, reading together age-appropriate books on the subject can help him understand intimacy and the notion of modesty.
What if he cries?
Sometimes some toddlers may start crying if they hear or overhear you. From their point of view, moans can be interpreted as cries of pain, which is why they worry and react that way.
Again, do not hesitate to reassure your child by explaining that you are not in pain but that it is a hug and caresses between grown-ups. Be sure to emphasize that this is adult-only behavior, especially if he’s seen more than you thought and is replicating the behavior with other children.
Find out more: “My sexuality from 0 to 6 years old”, by Jocelyne Robert and Jo-Anne Jacob, L’Homme editions
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