To maintain the flame within the couple, it is essential to maintain sexual satisfaction, according to the results of a study published in the Journal of Sex Research. Tenderness, complicity, foreplay and experimentation would keep desire and pleasure awake.
At the request of the women’s magazine Elle and Microsoft, researchers from Chapman University (California) carried out a survey with 38,747 participants to understand how the sexual satisfaction evolved in the couple and what helped to maintain the flame. The volunteers answered questionnaires after six months of relationship and during the duration of the study to establish the evolution of their sexual well-being in the couple.
After six months, sexual dissatisfaction sets in
The researchers observed that after six months, thesexual dissatisfaction settles in the couple.
Indeed, the results of the survey showed that only 43% of men and 55% of women are still sexually satisfied. 16% of men and 18% of women said they were moderately satisfied and 41% of men and 27% of women admitted to being dissatisfied.
The majority of men (59%) and women (42%) said they felt less wanted by their partner.
While paradoxically, the majority of these couples still feel desire for the partner. The solution ? Take care to express it to maintain the flame in the couple?
The keys to maintaining sexual satisfaction in the couple
Sexually satisfied couples have never lost affection and complicity. Most of them declare that their sexual relations are always either passionate or tender and playful. For the majority of them, making love with their partner was an enjoyable game that lasted at least 30 minutes and brought them personal sexual pleasure. Indeed, sexually satisfied couples do not neglect everyday tenderness, foreplay, oral sex and experimentation (new positions, fantasies…). Their sex life is a moment of complicity, games and personal satisfaction.
“We will therefore remember that one in three couples manages to maintain the flame, but that these couples have made a conscious effort to escape the routine of the couple and sex”, concludes Professor David Frederick, professor of psychology and lead author of the study.
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