Separation anxiety can disrupt a child’s development and adjustment.
While all children experience some form of fear at the thought of being separated from their parents, for some it has educational or developmental consequences. In this case it is important to consult.
A context that can promote fear
If it is normal from the age of 8 months for the child to experience difficulties when separating from his parents, certain life events such as a move, a change of school, parental separation or illness can also increase this stress, especially in a more anxious child.
What to do ?
To help your child, don’t hesitate to get him used to it gradually by leaving him with a trusted person for longer and longer periods, initially at home and then gradually outside. Prepare him before each separation by talking to him about where he will be and what he will be doing.
To avoid accentuating his stress, please keep a routine that allows him to reassure himself, with a ritual at the time of separation such as a hug, his comforter and information on what will happen to him. It is also important to respect your commitments and to be patient without giving in or prolonging the moment of departure if he has a crisis: he will then think that this is the best way to hold you back.
On the other hand, if the anxiety begins to have consequences on its development, and if it persists for more than a month, it is recommended to consult a health professional, whether it is a doctor, a a psychologist or a child psychiatrist to work on his difficulties.
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