Listening to your desires, taking your time during foreplay, inventing role-playing games, having massage evenings… if you are frustrated with your sex life, there are many easy solutions to implement. practical on a daily basis.
Summer vacation is approaching and romantic encounters are on the horizon. According to a survey conducted for Lastminute.com two years ago, in the summer period Europeans are notably 37% to be sexually more active compared to the rest of the year. But who says more frequent reports does not necessarily say fulfilling sex life. Why Doctor gives you here some advice for a sexuality at its zenith.
1) Listen to your body and tell your partner what you like
It’s obvious: we are not all made the same and everyone has their own fantasies and erogenous zones. To try to determine what would give you the most pleasure, fall into sleepiness and then imagine that you are in a place where everything is permitted. Visualize as much detail as possible and integrate an imaginary erotic partner into your scenario. Enjoy the meeting, its smell and its caresses and let yourself go to your wildest fantasies, without any taboos. After daydreaming, ask yourself what you learned about yourself. What did you like and find exciting? What bothered you? Once the list of “for” and “against” is established, share it with your partner. During the discussion, also find out about his wishes so that everyone finds his account.
2) Take your time during foreplay
In order to avoid physically painful or frustrating experiences, it is sometimes important to take your time before moving on to penetration. In this phase of contact, the two partners give each other signs of tenderness, ranging from simple hugs (don’t forget hugs, very important for bonding in the couple) to various caresses in order to prepare their bodies. This is an opportunity to awaken your five senses and let your desire rise quietly. If this period is too long for some, it helps with relaxation and well-being. We surrender little by little to each other. For women, this period is often necessary for better lubrication.
3) Dare to innovate and try new experiences
Have you been in a relationship for a long time and are getting tired of the missionary in bed every Sunday morning? There is no fatality. The options to spice up your sex life are legion. If you are a player, you can for example try a naughty game of hide and seek, a pillow fight or even simulate a fight to raise the electricity. If you like role-playing, try your hand at king and queen. Each will be assigned their evening of reign. When he is on the throne, the chosen one has the right to ask the other anything that tempts him/her sexually. Provided of course that these requests obtain the consent of the partner. The king or queen will have thought about and decided in advance on a particular place, a setting and a detailed erotic menu (the desired caresses, fantasies and sensory experiences).
Do you prefer board games? Improvise Strip Poker or give your partner a sexual token each time he loses a Trivial Pursuit “pie chart question”. You can also buy all kinds of unusual accessories (edible massage oils, whips, handcuffs or electronic gadgets) in many specialized shops or on the Net. Finally, remains the classic classic: get a Kama Sutra, ideal for challenging yourself and innovating during intercourse. The most important thing is of course not to be afraid of ridicule and to have fun above all.
4) Create a romantic mood
If you rather want to stay in the conventional, you can also create an atmosphere conducive to romantic exchanges. Surprise your partner with a good homemade dinner, light some candles (or low-frequency light bulbs), perfume the room with aphrodisiac oil, choose sensual music and put on your best lingerie. In case you don’t like to cook, the bubble bath with soft music and champagne always has its effect. Just like a massage evening.
5) Turn off your screens
And of course, banish telephones, computers and television from your bedroom, which must remain a sanctuary. According to an Ifop study published this year, men aged under 35, often addicted to screens, have more erectile or libido problems than others. Those who watch pornographic videos (55%), social networks (39%) or movies and series continuously on platforms such as Netflix (38%) are especially concerned. Make sure that your bed remains a place of exchanges, complicity and cuddles and watch movies or play video games in your living room. As for those who eat in bed, nothing worse to kill desire.
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