In this context of pandemic, some singles have redefined their expectations when it comes to dating and are engaging inapocalypsing. Zoom in on this love practice which can be harmful.
Apocalypsing, love in the time of Covid-19
Are you single and the successive confinements and curfews have made you want to find THE right person? Does this desire lead you to project yourself and get carried away a bit quickly when you meet someone? You may beapocalypser…
This concept involves looking at each new relationship as if it were your last, to the point of taking things very seriously with a person you’ve just met.
The trend did not appear with the Covid-19, but measures related to the latter have reinforced it. Some singles, dreading new lockdown, or bored outright during curfew, want to meet someone so badly that they either see their demands down or don’t see the person for who they really are, blinded by their feelings. expectations.
THE’apocalypsing was first spotlighted by Canadian dating site Plenty of Fish, which places it as one of the flagship love trends of 2021. After having surveyed nearly 2,000 of its American members, the platform announced last November that the trend would explode in 2021.
People who practiceapocalypsing do not necessarily do it consciously. But each new meeting puts them in a bubble, they idealize the person they meet for fear of finding themselves alone and deprived of these new signs of affection, important in this context of health crisis where physical contact has been considerably reduced.
A dangerous love trend?
THE’apocalypsing can quickly turn out to be harmful, as the people who practice it can become oppressive, intrusive and possessive because of their fear of being alone again. This behavior then runs the risk of causing what is most feared: rupture. In short, a not very healthy start to a relationship and often doomed to failure.
Worse yet, theapocalypsing pushes us not to see the signals that would usually make us run in the opposite direction. We are then content to ignore or find excuses for the other when they behave in ways that are not acceptable.
The coronavirus epidemic has disrupted romantic encounters, that’s for sure. So other trends that put in words in -ing on our relationships have emerged, as the corona cuffing. Like theapocalypsing, the corona cuffing talks about the urgency of finding a romantic partner. But the one who practices corona cuffing intends to leave his or her partner when things return to normal …
So how to avoidapocalypser, or to be a victim of corona cuffing ? The solution lies in letting go and knowing yourself. You have to know how to take the time to get to know the other, to detach yourself from this newly met person and to continue having good times alone or in the company of other people. Also ask yourself whether this relationship meets your values and your real expectations.
